builds on some success pillars. What are they?
Buy gifts
Gifts are a reflection of who you are and what you think of
your spouse. Though the most valuable presents don't come
from the store, you can still give gifts to reflect the care and
appreciation you feel for your partner.
AY: I buy my wife expensive gifts and she does same too in
her own capacity. The most expensive gift I've gotten from
her was a pair of Christian Loubouton shoes. She got it for me
last year as an anniversary gift.
AY, a comedian, is married to Mabel
Communication
Taking time to discuss issues is very important in a
relationship. Keep the lines open and your relationship will
experience a boost.
Yetunde: The most important thing is for the family to
communicate because where that is non-existent, the
relationship will collapse.
Tunde: Communication is the most important thing. My main
problem with my wife is, she wants to remain taciturn and
incommunicado sometimes. She does not want to talk about
certain things. I make sure she opens up because once you
can communicate; there is nothing under the sun that cannot
be resolved. Love conquers all because when you genuinely
like each other, it is about tolerance, sacrificing, compromise,
understanding, giving up something for the other person.
Nobody is perfect
Tunde Braimoh, a politician, is married to Yetunde
Shun arguments
As long as you live together under same roof, you are bound
to experience disagreements. But when handled with care,
respect and understanding, couples can resolve their
differences in a positive way and learn more about one
another. According to www.dummies.com, when not resolved
properly, couples can quickly become isolated and driven
apart.
Julius: For our marriage to wax stronger, we decided that we
would not engage in all the stupid quarrels people engage in.
Ibiere: Before the situation gets to the stage of quarrelling, we
speak out our feelings instead of bottling up issues.
Julius Agwu, a comedian, is married to Ibiere
Patience
It is the most important tool in keeping a marriage strong.
Without patience, a relationship crumbles
Caroline: It takes a lot of patience and compromise. My
mother and one of my aunts told me that if one survives the
first five to seven years of marriage , there is a great tendency
that both of you would stay together. I had the challenge of
being submissive but we were able to overcome it because
there was real love, trust, and friendship.
Dayo: I always tell her she is very stubborn but I have learnt
to look at it this way— sometimes what you consider a
weakness could also be strength. Just tweak things a bit and
adjust it. I tell her, 'when I say anything to you, listen and
digest it before giving me a reply.' She usually tries to answer
immediately and I think that is just the lawyer in her. I tell
her, 'we are not in a courtroom.'
Dayo Adeneye, showbiz impresario, is married to Caroline
Good looks
Even if your significant other loves you the way you are, you
can't expect him/her to be happy and feeling attracted to you
when you look awful. According to wikiHow, though your
significant other will love you even if you are the least
attractive person, he will be happy if he sees you are caring
about yourself.
Holy Mallam: We had an agreement with God that we were
going to have three children. Our first was a girl and then, we
had a boy. When the boy came, we decided to play smart and
stop. Then, my wife was working on her weight. In fact, I
spent a lot of money on that and I always took her to Victoria
Garden City, where the gym is and I spent over two hundred
thousand naira and the results were amazing.
Ajibola Adebayo, alias Holy Mallam, is married to Ijeoma
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