fall into a comfortable pattern that might be short on
the fireworks of the first year, but provides a stability
and intimacy that feels great.
However, if that comfortable groove has started to feel
more like an apathetic rut it might be time to take a
long, hard look at your relationship and see if it's likely
to stand the test of time. Here are five ways to tell if
your relationship is on the rocks…
1. You don't communicate
If you come home from work, stick the telly on and don't
speak to each other beyond the occasional "Pass the
crisps", you're in trouble. Communication is the key to
every relationship and without it minor issues can flare up
into fights and you'll both end up feeling unloved and
indifferent. If you don't want to talk to each other about
how your day was or chat and laugh together anymore, it's
a clear sign that you're losing interest.
2. You rarely have sex
Once the initial excitement of a new relationship has worn
off you will naturally have a bit less sex, but a strong
desire for your partner and regular sex make for a healthy,
functioning relationship. It may just be that your sex life
has got a little bit routine and injecting some zest with a
little bit of experimentation will put things back on an even
keel, but if you still aren't feeling it, it's probably time to
wave goodbye.
3. You imagine life without your partner
If you find yourself constantly having daydreams that fail
to feature your partner it's time to ask yourself some
questions. You might long for a home free of their clutter
and chat, or fantasise about a date with that hot new
colleague, or wish you could just take a holiday alone:
whatever it is, you've started to emotionally detach.
4. You pick fights
If you find your partner irritating and can't resist
constantly picking them up on their habits then the writing
is on the wall. Relationships require empathy, compassion
and compromise to keep going, so if you've jacked all that
in in favour of snapping and bickering it's time to get out
of there.
5. You forget about the little things
Whilst big gestures are thrilling and romantic they don't
help maintain a relationship on a day-to-day level. A
recent study funded by the Economic Science and
Research Council found that the simple things – such as
bringing your partner a cup of tea in bed – nurture a
relationship much more than grand romantic gestures. If
you've forgotten about those little things and rarely think
to do anything for your partner, from offering them a
cuppa to giving them a cuddle, then it's time to forget
about the whole thing and move on.
Culled from Daily.co.uk
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