Is a guy pursuing you even when you've made your
intentions clear?
It could be a good friend or just another guy who
stalks and stares at you. But sometimes, dealing with a
guy who just can't accept your rejection can be a
big pain in the backside.
If you don't like the guy and don't see any possibility
of you ever dating him, the first thing you need to do is
to stop reciprocating his flirting games *if you're still flirting
with him*.
Remember, the longer you put up with his flirting or the
longer you wait before telling him off, the harder it'll be to
get him to back off.
There's a big chance he'd assume you're just playing hard to
get because you've led him on so far!
How to stop a guy from flirting with you
Sometimes, without even realizing it, you may enjoy the
attention the guy gives you even if you don't like the idea of
dating the guy or getting into a committed relationship with
him.
But this is a decision you have to take.
Do you want him to continue pursuing you because you like
feeling wanted and desired by him, or do you want him to
stop wooing you so you can make it clear to him that you
aren't interested in anything more than just friendship with
him?
All of us like feeling desired and fancied, but there will come
a time when your pursuer may interfere with your own love
life, especially when you're dating someone else or are trying
to get some other guy's attention. And eventually, your
confused state of mind may push you into a tricky love
triangle where you want the attention of both guys, and you'd
end up the biggest loser!
He hasn't asked you out but he flirts with you!
This is always tricky, because you can't tell a guy that you
aren't interested in dating him when he hasn't even asked you
out. What do you say to a guy who hasn't even made his
intentions clear?
Many guys who think they're smooth players fit like a glove
in this category. They tease you and seduce you, and yet,
never make their intentions clear. By doing this, the guy
would entice you, rouse your curiosity, and make you think of
him often, and that would make you fall for him even before
you realize it.
When a guy doesn't tell you he likes you and yet flirts with
you, he may eventually embarrass you by flirting in front of
your friends, or worse, in front of a guy you really like!
Many guys flirt with the girl they like in front of other guys.
It's their way of trying to mark their territory even if the
territory doesn't belong to them. Publicly and outrageously
flirting with a girl in front of other potential boyfriend
materials is their way of telling other guys to back off because
he's in a better standing to date you than anyone else.
Don't lead him on
If you want to stop a guy from incessantly flirting with you all
the time, don't give him the opportunity to believe that you
enjoy his flirting by appearing interested in him, or by
reciprocating his flirty games now and then when you're
bored late at night.
Be affirmative – Don't be the sweet girl
This is the mistake that most girls make. Most girls are just
too sweet to say no, because they don't want to be rude. But
you need to remember that his behavior is stressing you out,
making you appear stupid in front of your friends, and almost
everyone may believe you're just pretending to dislike the
guy while you enjoy the flirting in secret!
And just by trying to be nice to this guy, you'd end up losing
the interest of other guys who may secretly like you, and
worse, you'd be ridiculed by all your friends for being so
spineless and two faced because you only pretend to be
annoyed by this guy.
How to stop him from flirting with you
If you know the guy, but he's not a very good friend of yours,
use these 7 tips to get him to back off. If he's a good friend
and you don't want to lose his friendship or feel awkward
around him, just use the next 7 tips.
#1 Tell him you don't like it.
If this guy drawls and drools in front of you, or if he tries to tell
you how sexy you are or just how badly he wants to take you out, just
cut him mid-sentence instead of smiling at him approvingly. Tell him
straight to his face that you find him annoying when he talks to you
that way.
#2 You're already taken.
Tell this guy that you have a boyfriend. Or each time he tries
to flirt with you, talk to him about another guy you have a crush on.
It may piss him off, but he'll get the point!
#3 He's your friend.
When he flirts with you, tell him you find it rather disturbing
because friends aren't supposed to talk that way. Tell him
that you consider him a good friend and aren't interested in anything
beyond that.
#4 Texting games.
Avoid texting him, especially late at night.It's very easy to fall
prey to flirty games when you text a guy late at night frequently. And
if he tries to text flirt with you, avoid responding to him, he'll get
the hint eventually.
#5 Jealous confrontation.
Get really close to another guy, or ignore him in front of another
guy you like. It'll piss him off, and there's a good chance he'll
confront you and ask you why you were ignoring him. And you can use
the excuse to make it clear to him that you consider him a friend, and
that he should start behaving like one!
#6 Ignore him.
If he isn't an old friend, and someone who's just trying to get close
to you only to get into your pants, just ignore him if he doesn't get
the hint. There's only so much you can try to make a guy understand
your friendly intentions.
#7 Reject him.
If you've tried it all and still find this guy pursuing you, then you
have no option but to reject him.
How to stop a guy from hitting on you when he's a friend
Is a friend falling in love with you? This is definitely tricky
grounds, because you may really like him as a person and you
may not want to lose his friendship. If a guy who's a good
friend asks you out or flirts with you, here are 7 things you
can do to get him to back off and get him back into the friend
zone.
#1 Stop the games.
Avoid giving him a sign that it's okay to flirt, by smiling or
laughing when he flirts with you. Even a small gesture like that could
be taken as an affirmation to continue flirting. Flirting games always
starts slow and works itself up to a sexual frenzy. So the earlier you
see the signs and stop reciprocating to him, the easier it'll be to
get him to stop hitting on you.
#2 Insult him.
Give him a cold stare when he tries to get touchy with you, or get
sarcastic when he says something that's more than just a friendly
compliment. It's alright to embarrass or insult him a few times, it's
the only way he'd realize you have no intentions of hooking up with
him for a fling thing.
#3 Get bored.
Each time he flirts with you, pretend like you're bored or
uninterested in talking to him. Or as soon as he says something
naughty, just look away and don't say anything for a few seconds *even
if things feel awkward*. And when you look towards him again, just
change the topic of conversation. Doing this will definitely scare him
into talking about something else!
#4 Alone time.
A guy who's a good friend of yours wouldn't dream of flirting with
you in public when there are other friends around. So don't give him
the opportunity to hit on you by spending time with him when there
aren't other friends around, especially if he's already asked you out
or if he tries to run his hands all over you when no one's around.
#5 Intimate conversations.
Both of you may be really close, but until he gets back into the
friend zone, avoid having long intimate conversations with him. He may
just be using it to get closer to you. And inevitably, you may end up
getting feelings for him too.
#6 Just ask him.
It'll put him in an awkward spot. "Are you hitting on me? / Are you
flirting with me? … If you are, I just want you to know I'm not
interested in anything more than being just friends with you."
#7 He gets persistent.
Have both of you shared some sexual intimacy at some point of time?
Have you ever hooked up with him *even if it's just once* after a
drunken night or after a lot of sexy late night texting?
You could tell him that you aren't interested in hooking up
with him, but he may still believe you won't stop him even if
he tries to get closer to you or make out with you because he
knows you secretly like it even if you tell him you don't like
it.
In such a scenario, you have no choice but to take a break
away from him for a while. You could have a serious
conversation with him and tell him that you have no interest
in getting naughty with him, and you'd appreciate it if he
could just behave like a friend instead. If he truly cares about
you and respects you, he'll definitely try hard to avoid flirting
with you.
Remember, it's easy to stop a guy from flirting with you
and hitting on you, just as long as you're clear in your
head and know what you want. And if you truly want a
guy to back off, just be firm and stand your ground. He'll
get the message soon enough!
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