that, instead of opting for a nice and calm partner who
would treat her right (you), the girl usually chooses a 'bad
boy'. If you are a girl, then you probably are wondering
why you are attracted to and end up with a man who
treats you badly. We've tried to come up with sensible
reasons why this happens, but you are very welcome to
add some new insights on the matter in the comments!
1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be
that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice
instead of being real and women instinctually don't trust that.
Bad boys "keep it real." Nice guys don't want to upset the
apple cart.
2. Respect. No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set
boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a
woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't
respect a man they can control. No respect equals no
attraction.
3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so
they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit
unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are
never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no
challenge.
4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However,
instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it
with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice
guys rarely need to be saved.
5. Fixing. Nice guys don't usually need to be fixed. Bad
boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if
they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them.
Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to
look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Genetic wars. Women are designed to procreate with the
strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an
unconscious message that they have great genes, so they're
not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are
sending a message that they don't think their genes are good
enough, so they won't misbehave.
7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she
subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since
she can never get close enough to him to have to go there.
A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that's
scary.
8. Low self-esteem: We don't feel comfortable with people
who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think
much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your
negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you're not
familiar with.
9. s*x. Women feel a nice guy won't be good in bed. They
sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won't
be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes
across as being able to deliver, even though that may not
always be the case.
10. Hot. Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? They
probably wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they
did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman
describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot."
11. Charm. Nice guys don't always know what to say and are
sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming
and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they
eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they
reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has
a hard time letting go.
12. Protection. Historically, men have protected women —
physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being
able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren't so
sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad
boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but
walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to
do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy,
until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good
ones.
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