will continue to do so because it has something other
sex play doesn't: words.
1. Blindfold her:
Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness.
She doesn't know where you are or what you are going to
do next. This creates anticipation for better sex — the
tease. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects, such as
a feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her
nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be
careful not to overstimulate the nerve endings, however,
because after a while the neurons stop firing with such
intensity and the sensation becomes null and void.
2. Give her instructions:
After a while you may think you know how to please your
partner in every way, but this is very rarely true. There is
always something you haven't tried, and there is bound to
be something one of you always does that could be done
differently. To combat this for better sex, have a lesson
session in which you don't think you know it all, and are
at each other's mercy as teacher. Talk about things you
haven't tried, but would like to, then choose one
suggestion from each partner, and get down and dirty. We
often get caught thinking we know what our partners like,
and after a while it becomes "the way it's done." Lose this
myth and put yourself in the student's chair for a while for
better sex you won't regret.
3. Massage:
Sensual touch is one of the most highly relaxing and sexy
things you can do for your partner, which is why it makes
it onto our 10 tips for better sex list. Our bodies are almost
without exception tense in some area, if not many areas.
This hinders our energy flow — including sexual energy
flow. Imagine a car that has a clogged fuel filter: the fuel
(our energy) can't get to where it needs to go quickly and
smoothly, and the car performs inefficiently and
ineffectively. A relaxing sensual massage can unlock her
body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in
the end. The ability to relax your partner in this way
should be high on your list of skills to master. The same
goes for her: The difference between a deeply relaxing
massage and a sensual massage is in the manner of touch
— you don't want to relax her too deeply because she will
probably fall straight to sleep.
4. Have her dress up:
Pretending to be something you're not comes easily to
some people. However, it has its benefits when done for
fun. Stepping out of the role of being "yourself" can be a
fun way to give each other permission to behave
differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else
during sexual play is a very enjoyable way to give your
partner some different sensations, and try things that you
haven't done before. Role playing is a great way to have
better sex and to have fun with your partner in a light-
hearted but sexy way. It is often the woman who does the
dressing up simply because A) They enjoy it; and B) They
have the resources of clothes, underwear and makeup —
but don't forget that you can play too.
5. Tell her your fantasies:
Talking about your fantasies with your partner is a very
conducive form of sex play. It increases communication
with your partner, which is of great importance, as well, it
also helps you get to know each other better for better sex.
Yes, you may be surprised by what comes out of her
mouth, but this works both ways. Keep it light at first and
don't throw her in the deep end with fantasies about
people you both know or reveal fetishes you aren't sure
about. Sit back with a glass of wine and keep your clothes
on — for now. Fantasy play can also be incorporated into
a game for better sex. Use your imagination, and keep it
sexy. Take it in turns and see where it leads you.
6. Play a game:
Get a pack of cards and play strip poker for better sex. It
may seem like something you would have done when you
were in high school (given the opportunity), but adult strip
poker is a good way to get naked. Once you are both
naked (or nearly naked), you can start on the really fun
part: A loss means the other person gets to choose what
action is performed on them by the loser. Time limits like
one minute on said action means that it is a prolonged
game of seduction, which by the end will have you both
clamoring to be both the winner and the loser. There are
many other games you can play "strip" to, as long as there
is regular winner and loser to reward and punish
respectively. The great part about these games is that you
can both ask the other person to do something in a certain
way that you may not necessarily have ever done before. It
can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in the
end.
7. Dirty talk:
Talking dirty has turned people on for millennial and will
continue to do so because it has something other sex play
doesn't: words. Because our brains are our largest sexual
apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically
— especially when someone says our name. The spoken
word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to
various regions, depending on the topic. This works very
much in your favor when it comes to talking dirty to your
lover because women are especially susceptible to what
goes in their ears (and I don't mean cotton buds or ear
candles). Talking dirty is, however, an art form and when
done badly can result in fits of giggles (which, lets face it,
ain't so bad but isn't quite the goal here). Don't let this
deter you.
8. Try a new position:
You already know how to bring her to orgasm in two ways
(probably). You repeat these regularly because they work
— there's no harm in that. However, if you never, ever try
any new positions again, how will you ever know? New
positions need a reasonably high level of arousal in your
lover, so choose your time to strike a new pose when she
is quite obviously feeling very randy. There is no limit to
the number of ways to have sex, so you can use your
imagination and come up with as many weird and
wonderful inventions as you desire. Simply changing
locations can dramatically change the position, so consider
this too (for example on top of the washing machine, on a
bench, beanbag or table).
9. Use a cock ring:
Cock rings slow the drain of blood out of your erection,
and keep you harder for longer. A very hard penis
stimulates a woman's insides slightly differently — and
much better — than one that is getting soft around the
edges. Cock rings are inexpensive and usually nice to look
at, and make an interesting male sex toy to add to your
collection. Cock rings ensure that you can maintain the
pace without faltering for better sex. This is very pleasing
to your lady friend.
10. Try a new place:
Sex in a new locale is definitely up there in exciting things
to do for better sex. You can take a drive somewhere
secluded where you can get a bit risqué. Try a public place
(not too public) or simply move to a different room or area
in your home — or even someone else's home. Whatever
tickles your fancy. There are a million and one different
places to have sex other than your home, in your bed —
use them.
Culled from AskMen
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