better conversationalist. I don't like small talk and hate when
someone talks to me about the weather, unless it really is
remarkable. Though I'm not a big fan of a long conversation,
sometimes I find myself in situations with no way out. That's
why I decided to start to test out some ways to become a
better conversationalist and I can surely say that they really
work! Read on!
1. Remember their name
This is the most difficult thing for me to remember. Really, I
can remember someone's face but it's so difficult for me to
remember their name. If you are anything like me, you should
definitely try this clever way to remember a person's name.
When a person tells you their name, make sure you say it
back to them. When you talk to them, be sure to say their
name a few times.
2. Become a great listener
If you are a good listener, you will certainly become a good
conversationalist. Many people like to talk about themselves
so make it a point to listen to them. If you hear something
interesting that you can learn more about, make sure you ask
them a question or two and this will help build on the
conversation. You should not just hear them, you should
listen to what they are saying to you and be interested in
conversation.
3. Ask questions
If you don't want your conversation to sound like an
interrogation or interview, ask open-ended questions to keep
the conversation going. If you are not used to conversing, this
will definitely take some practice, but practice makes perfect!
For instance, you're talking with a person and they mention
their husband/wife. This is a great time to ask them how they
met.
4. Use your body language
If you find yourself in the middle of the conversation and you
can't find the words, then don't worry and use your body
language. It may be difficult, but try to make eye contact
when someone is speaking to you. For me, eye contact is a
sure sign that a person is attentive and interested. Also don't
forget to smile, of course, when it is appropriate. When a
person tells you something they look for signals from you that
you're on the right track. A nice smile can perpetuate the
conversation even further.
5. Be attentive
When speaking to someone, be sure to notice what they're
wearing, whether they have an accent or something that sets
this person apart as an individual. It may seem weird at first,
but these are good entry points for you to ask questions and
add to the conversation.
6. Be honest
I really enjoy and appreciate an honest conversation, it's so
refreshing. When someone asks how you're doing, don't be
afraid to tell the truth. This may lead to a frank conversation.
If a person is honest with you then you can share something
about yourself. Being honest is a great way to become a better
conversationalist. But make sure you think before you speak.
7. Connect the dots
Now when you know more about the person you're
conversing with, you need to find a good way to connect the
dots. For instance, if you're talking about school, then speak
about the plans for after school finishes. If you find out that
you have something in common, then you may connect the
dot to yourself.
I like meeting new people and these ways helped me to
become a better conversationalist. Hope they will help you
too! Do you have any other tips to become a better
conversationalist? How do you feel about talking to new
people? Please comment below and thanks for reading!
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