biggest moments of our lives and should be entered into
seriously.
It's true that many marriages end in divorce, but it's
pretty crucial that you at least start out believing that it
really is until death us do part. If you aren't sure
you're making the right decision it could be a simple
case of cold feet, or there could be deeper problems.
Read through our list of potential deal breakers and see
if any alarm bells start to ring.
1• You think marriage will solve your relationship
problems
If you're getting hitched because you think it will sort out
all your difficulties, you need to have a serious rethink.
Any problems that exist between you and your partner will
still remain after the excitement of the big day has worn
off and will only be exacerbated by the fact that you've
committed yourselves for life. Tackle your problems
before saying 'I do'.
2• You aren't friends
The first flush of romance is incredibly exciting and it's
easy to promise the world to someone when under the
influence of that initial chemistry. If you rush into
marriage at an early stage, you might find that once the
honeymoon period is over, you aren't compatible in the
long term. If you don't feel your lover is also your friend,
you might not last the distance.
3• Your life priorities are completely different
If you want to travel the world in a camper van and rarely
think past next week, but your partner wants to settle down
with a mortgage and 2.4 kids, you're going to struggle to
find a happy future together. Compromise is vital to a
relationship, but you shouldn't be compromising so much
that you end up unhappy.
4• You think marriage will make you feel secure
If you feel insecure in your relationship and are using
marriage as a way to stop your partner leaving you, then
you need to have a long hard look at yourself. Marriage
should be a celebration of your love rather than a method
of control, so address your insecurities before asking
someone to make the commitment.
5• Your family and friends don't like your partner
We don't always see eye to eye with our friends and
family about our choice of partner, but if there's a general
consensus amongst them that this person is really wrong
for you, take a moment to stop and think. Your friends and
family know you well, and care about your happiness, so
they may be seeing something that your head-over-heels
feelings have blinded you to. They may be wrong, but it's
worth listening to their opinions all the same.
Culled from Daily.co.uk
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