into another's.
A new study conducted among 900 men and women has found
that kissing plays a crucial role in human courtship because
it alerts us to "hidden biological cues indicating the genetic fitness or desirability of a potential mate".
And here are the rules:
1. Check your breath
We know, discussing hygiene takes the punch out of
passion, but this is elementary. If your mouth smells foul,
you've lost round one even before you've begun. Which is
why you have toothbrushes, mouthwash gargles and mint
chewing gum. Keep your teeth, gums and breath healthy.
While this applies to both sexes, it's especially vital for
men, because research has proved that women depend on
taste and smell in mate evaluation.
2. Judge timing
Circumstance is a player, and context is key. Pick the right
moment. Is your partner keen to kiss you too? Will they
allow you into their personal space? It's best if you run an
easy test. Deliver a friendly peck on her neck or lift the hair
out of her face. If she doesn't recoil, the signal's green.
3. Focus on the job
There will always be distractions, but a good kisser is one
who shuts out the universe and stays in the moment. Feel
your breath mix with your partner's. And relax. Your lips
can't be tense. And keep the pressure balanced. If it's too
light, you may come across as lukewarm. If you push too
hard, you are uncouth.
4. Use your imagination
Kissing is an important step in foreplay, but you needn't
make it obvious that it's a means to an end. It can't be
mechanical. And hit erogenous zones besides the lips. For
men, it varies from the nape of the neck and back of knees
to even nibbling of the ears. For the ladies, a kiss on the
inner thighs and a caress of the wrists are equally turning
on.
5. Match rhythm
Stellar kisses have gradations. They vary in spend and
pressure. They vary from gentle to passionate, with a pause
taken in between for breathing. React and reply to your
lover's lip cues. Lead aggressively when they let up; be the
patient recipient when they are in the mood to play
choreographer. Remember to catch your partner's eye in a
while. It can get annoying to have someone pinch their
eyelids shut each time they kiss. It helps build an emotional
connect.
6. Watch your hands
Use your hands. A kisser who moves nothing but the lips
comes across as frozen. But be aware of where they are
going. Clutching him/her by the waist close to your groin
suggests you mean business. Touching the chin gently or
fiddling with the other's fingers is about playfulness.
Holding them firmly by the neck could mean, "This one's
going to take a while". Before you allow them to stray
anywhere else, make sure you are in a position to take
liberties. Ferociously clutching a clump of hair isn't
permissible, unless it's S&M you've planned.
7 Date tongue use
Some believe tongue use must end when you earn your
graduation degree, but there are those who swear by its
power. This one's tricky and will take practice. No one
likes being suffocated with a tongue shoved down the
larynx, so make sure your tongue doesn't exit your mouth.
Meeting the other at 'gates' is fine. The lick can come to
good use, especially when you run your tongue over your
lover's slightly parted lips.
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